Updated: Sep 23, 2018
Chapter 10: 5 MORE Harsh Truths About Life You Will Need to Know
If you are an avid supporter of this blog, first off THANK YOU. There is a special place in my heart for those who appreciate my writing. Second off, you may recognize the title. If you're not an avid reader of this blog or you're catching up (or if I forced you to read), don't worry. You came at a great time. You can read PART 1 whenever you get the chance to, but these are five more harsh truths about your and the world. Like before, I'll elaborate on each one. Once again, if you are in a depressive mindset, please take these quotes with a grain of salt. This is in no way to attack you or your character.
Remember, the truth will set you free. But first, it'll piss you off. Let's continue:
"I can't change anyone."
You can influence change in someone, yes. You can influence decisions all you can. However, you cannot cause said change. Know that people will change if they WANT to change. People will grow as a person if they want to grow; and if a person does not want to better themselves, they will not. A person's desire to change must be greater than their desire to stay the same. To stay complacent. One of the problems with this generation is the fact that we are entirely too comfortable. Mediocre. Average. This is applicable in any context. We have to learn to be comfortable at being uncomfortable. We have to always be changing. If it is important to them, they will find a way. If it is not, they will find an excuse. Please do not forget that. Don't give anyone the opportunity to waste your time twice. Focus on your own growth first and then help people if they want to help themselves.
"The world doesn't care about me."
As of right now, the world is populated by 7.6 billion people and the Earth was formed over 4.5 billion years ago. I'm not the one to do the math for you, but there has been countless amounts of people before you and there will be even more after you. Also, the time you have spent in existence already and the rest of the time you will spend existing until you perish is a very small amount of time in comparison to how long this planet has been around. My point is that if you take into account all this information, you will realize the world doesn't give a crap about you. We tend to get very egocentric and believe that the world is out to get us or the world is out here granting us blessings. In fact, people would go far as to say that the world would stop if something in their life would happen. My friend, the world doesn't go out of it's way to be good or bad for anybody. The world just turns. If the world took all of our feelings into consideration, you may notice. It's unfathomable to even think how different it'd be, but we'd notice and we probably would hate it. The world has too many people to accommodate for, so it chooses not to. No matter what goes on, the world is going to keep on turning. Do what you need to do and the world will do the same.
"I'm never as strong as I need to be."
I wish that there was a way around this one, but there isn't. This isn't just with strength, unfortunately. We are never exactly what we need to be with anything. It comes with being the imperfect being that God made us to be. However, you need to learn to be okay with that. Be okay with the fact that you need to cry it out or walk away from a situation or laugh it off. We have the tendency to not feel our emotions or delay our emotions because it's a burden. What we feel is valid and we need to feel everything step by step. Life is a feeling process.
"No one will ever know everything about me."
You, reader, have been, are, and will always be the only person in the world that spends every waking moment with you from beginning to end. Try to stomach the fact that it’s been you all along & it will be you that will continue to make it all on your own. In our efforts to be cathartic and meaningful, we tell ourselves and others that people complete us and we want people to read us like a palm. We want people to mind read us and tell us our issues as if we don’t have a way of doing so ourselves. But understand the fact that you are the only one that will know what your heart and mind holds. Even if you told others, it’s not the whole truth & you’re still holding things back. There are things you keep to yourself under lock & key. You can’t expect for people to just KNOW what you’re going through unless you let them know.
"Nothing that I plan will go as planned."
If I could get this tattooed on me and not worry about my parents getting mad at me for doing so, I probably would. I was talking to my good friend, Tristan, about this & he is the reason why this is listed. It’s true. If you ever want to make God laugh, tell him what YOU have planned. He’ll give you a sign that he laughed. Life is just an endless cycle of going with the motions. It gets annoying when all that we planned goes to rubbish, but I mean hey! That’s life. The point of life, so it seems, is literally to try making due with what we’re dealt with. If it’s beneficial to us, points for us! If it doesn’t, we make due with that. It’s like that whole “when life gives you lemons” thing.
Take it or leave it, friend.
Sincerely Yours Sometimes,
PS: SONG OF THE WEEK: Kehlani - Thank You
(Every time I post, I will include a song that may or may not correlate with the topic I write about. This is me thanking you for reading my posts by gifting you with good music.)